I admit it, I am a sap. I get taken advantage of frequently, people use me since I am so predictable in my responses, and in general, I am often played the fool. Especially when it comes to horses, because I am really a sap for those!
What usually happens is that I eventually get annoyed. Then it moves to frustrated, and from there, to downright ticked off. I have no one to blame but myself when I get into these sticky predicaments, but I would sure like to think I can.
Like most humans, once I am ticked off, civility takes a back seat and I can surely be rude in getting my point across. Mostly that's because being blunt and forceful is what it takes to get it there in the first place.
I am sure you might be thinking: What does this have to do with horses? Welp, let me recap for you, the current predicament-
At the beginning of summer, I allowed my coworker to bring to my place her mare for training. She's been there since the last week of May. The deal was, $100 a month and she'd provide the hay and grain. A very sweet deal for up here. So time passes and the trainer works with the horse sporadically, with little forward progress. The "plan" was that once the trainer got three rides on the mare, that would be it. Month after month passes and eventually it's September. Trainer becomes hard to reach and I don't see evidence of the horse being worked. October rolls around and the coworker contacts trainer, and it's agreed that it will wrap up very soon. Trainer does not show. November rolls around and I tell coworker that the trainer has not been there at all (easy to verify due to snow on the ground-no tracks) Coworker is too intimidated by confrontations to have it out with trainer, and lets it slide. Finally, I tell coworker the horse has to go home. This is the first week of December. Over the course of the fall, I have lost the chance at three boarders for full rate, and I can't afford to do this any longer.
Now we have reached a point where she is leaving messages when she knows I won't be home or at work to talk to her. The last conversation was her asking that she leave the horse there until yesterday when she had a doctor's appointment in town anyway. I said I needed full board or the horse gone, period. The horse trailer is there, alright, but so is the horse.
Now I am infuriated at myself, for allowing this to happen. It's all well and good to help out friends but honestly, this is going too far. So today I am going to keep calling until she can't stand it any longer, and answers the phone. Screw this. I have removed the Welcome mat for this person and it's time to be my blunt and rude self.